Love is...patient

Funny that the first thing Paul lists in 1 Corinthians about love is that it is patient. Thats not what I've learned from movies, TV and a lot of friends. I learned in middle school and high school that love was a feeling you got. Love justified actions. People did some crazy stuff and the explanation sometimes was "They're in love." I noticed it became a justification for crimes even, murder and abuse. A man or woman cheating on their spouse was caught in the act and was attacked in anger. The woman was cheating on her husband, she REALLY loved this other guy though. The husband loved the wife so much he couldn't bear to see her with another man, so when he did, he killed her.

I'd argue thats not love, thats a cheap imitation of what God calls love. I've never been in that situation and I pray I never will, I don't mean to make judgements and I know these situations aren't easy. I'm not pretending (nor would God I beleive) to downplay the real pain, and hurt of being cheated on and I'm also not downplaying passionate feelings one human being might have towards another. But if love is patient, where does patience fit into this example of a real situation referred to as love? The decision to make is either: love isn't patient, or that's not love. I vote #2.
Love is patient- that means love waits, it's literally "long-suffering". I don't know what it looks like for everyone, but I know I want to love patiently, as God loves me and as I know real, authentic love is where life abundant is found.